HIVE Blog

Blogs written by patients, consumers, and providers

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Rocquel and Lilieth

After sharing my story at the conference, Lilieth and I became close friends. Prior to Lilieth and I being involved in a monogamous relationship, I wanted to know how difficult will it be to get on PrEP. I decided, what better way to educate the public about PrEP than to be on it myself?

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Disclosing to My Son

My son was a different story. I just felt like it was too soon for me to tell him my status. I was hoping I could teach him about it and then let him know sometime after that.

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PrEP Helps Me Sleep at Night

One day, a dude I liked did not have an ID and wanted to have sex. So I got the condom, went on the side of the building, gave dude the condom thinking he would respect my health and me. I turned my back because I seen the condom go on. But dude took the condom off.

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Missed Opportunities

After asking my provider why I have never been asked about my sexual history/practices, her response was mind blowing: “Well, we talked about birth control and the possibility of you having a baby three years ago…”

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Hoping for My Own Modern Family

My name is Christopher Holmes, and I’m a 34 year old Black gay man living with HIV. I’m from Atlanta, Georgia, and now reside in Bronx, NY. I have six brothers and one sister and they all have kids.

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Second Generation: Asian, Gay, Positive and a Parent

The same year as my diagnosis was the same year I was accepted into law school. I am now a licensed attorney and as of writing this piece, have been with my partner (who is HIV negative) for the past 6 years. We are also the proud foster parents of our 18-month old daughter.

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HIVE at the NMAC HIV PrEP Summit: Amplifying All Women’s Voices:

At the PrEP for Women dinner we launched the curated web page with women-centric PrEP resources, a crowd-sourced effort from allies across the U.S. Palm cards promoted the web page (we have extra; reach out if you want some to share locally!) and provided opportunities to bring women into the mainstream PrEP Summit conversations. We also screened the newly released #20DaystoStart PrEP for Women video from Project Inform. The video was celebrated with thunderous applause.

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Getting on PrEP at 62

At my age today (62), I am not looking to become a statistic. So as I go forward in life, I am looking forward to PrEP keeping me HIV-negative. PrEP will become a part of my sexual encounter kit. I know that it will prevent me from contracting the virus. Usually, with age comes wisdom and I know, that at this time, prevention is better than a cure.

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On My Path to Fatherhood

My journey will begin starting next year, when I start the adoption process and actively trying to find a surrogate that is HIV positive. I don’t know where this journey will take me, and honestly I am still fearful, but I believe in facing fears head on and not cowering away from them.

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Love: Greater Than Stigma

After sitting down with my daughter, and educating her about HIV/AIDS (using information from the CDC), she instantly felt relieved, and immediately gave Henry a hug and kiss on the cheek. Things have gotten much better between me, Henry, and the kids now.

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HIV: Not the Problem

Now comes the snag, we are having difficulty due to the fact that Donna needs fertility medications to help us have a baby. Our insurance does not cover it; the most we could afford was a visit to a fertility doctor, to buy treatment for about 9 months, plus two follow up visits. So far we’ve had no success.

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Around the World: Finding Hope

I used to think that life without heroin was no life at all. All my time was spent making sure I had money and dope. I wouldn’t go to bed without a wakeup [drugs for the morning]. Now, I can go to the symphony, or a revival of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. I can go spend time at the Academy of Science in Golden Gate Park. Those things are really interesting to me, and now I can do them, because I’m sober and living a better life.

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Pregnant: Thanks to PrEP

I was in love, so what did I do? I educated myself on everything HIV related, and I talked to anyone and everyone who had something encouraging to say.

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PrEP Relief: Practical Prevention

I was immediately attracted to the idea of taking PrEP as I am multi-partnered as well as a sex worker. I want to keep myself as healthy as possible, as well as protect all the people I interact with sexually.

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My Reason to Get Out of Bed

Needless to say, I’ve had a few ups and down over the course of the past 16 years, but my daughter is the reason why I get out of bed every day. I consistently think about what I can do to improve her life and be there whenever she needs me.

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Accepting HIV

To me, living with HIV/AIDS is NOT a death sentence nor a curse. There is a stigma that our society has normalized that if one is HIV POSITIVE it because that individual hasn’t been behaving well or had many boyfriends or girlfriends, however that is a myth.

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I Am Not Alone Out Here

I have been taking PrEP for roughly 9 months and I have no complaints about the medication. I am a 40-year-old woman who is HIV negative, and my partner is living with HIV.

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PrEP for Safer Sex

My name is Charlly Moore and I’m a BBW adult film star. I now take PrEP every day for my sexual health. I’m safer with my sex practices now than I was before taking PrEP.

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Spreading the Word: PrEP is Right for Me

One of the main reasons I’m using PrEP now is about prevention: I believe in preventive care. If I can do something to better protect myself, then I should take that opportunity. I love life, and I want to live life to the fullest.

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PrEP: Beneficial for Me

I found PrEP to be beneficial for me because I had two sex partners and wanted to protect us all and improve my chances of remaining HIV negative. I am aware that PrEP doesn’t prevent other STIs or pregnancy, but I think using it is a good choice for me to prevent HIV.

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PrEP: Power & Strength

The day I decided to start taking PrEP was the best day of my life. It actually made sex more enjoyable for me. I am a swinger and do have a higher risk of contracting any STIs.

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One Day, I Will Have a Baby

My own fear and ignorance led me to believe that I wouldn’t be able to be able to have children and that I was unworthy of love. By educating myself about HIV, disclosing my status to trusted family members and friends and engaging with my community I learned the value of my own life.

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Afraid and Hopeful

Also, even though everyone stresses the use of condoms, using them is not as easy as opening the wrapper. I would love to know that I had more protection against something like HIV that is incurable. #WheresMyPrEP?

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Reborn

I have been HIV positive since 2007. Two months after I found out I was positive, I had my baby. He is now nine years old and is HIV free.

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On the Path to RAHMA

Drip. Drip. I could hear the sound of the saline dripping from the IV as I stood at the door. His back was turned towards me and the room was dark. The shades were drawn and I asked myself, “Is he sleeping?”

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Thank You

From Lev (Elena’s husband)-
I want to add a small message of my own personal gratitude to the people of HIVE and Ward 86.

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Yes, I Can

3 years ago, while living in Moscow, Russia I was diagnosed with HIV. Today I live in San Francisco, my viral load is undetectable, my CD4 count is at a normal level, and 2 months ago I gave vaginal birth to my healthy, HIV-negative son.

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Beyond Compassion: Caring for Women with a History of Trauma

Twelve locally and nationally esteemed speakers shared their expertise in their respective fields, presenting on topics including: trauma-informed care for women; disclosure, criminalization and stigma for women living with HIV; reducing anxiety and pain during gynecological exams; and healing rituals and practices for service providers.

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Proud to Be on PrEP

That moment, that whole night really, wouldn’t have happened if I wasn’t on PrEP, and it’s largely why I continue to be on it. #APIHAAD

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Love and PrEPception

I met Nathan 16 years ago when I was in a rehab, newly sober from a heroin addiction. He was very open about being HIV positive and I was already somewhat educated about it…

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My Fear as a Teen with HIV

It’s almost National Youth HIV Awareness Day. Last year I wrote something about it that was positive. This year I’m having a hard time being positive. Maybe it’s because I’m a teenage girl and because of puberty I’m really sensitive about everything. But I don’t think that’s all. I think as I get older certain things about me having HIV get harder.

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HIVE + MHPPPI = #HIVLoveWins: The Making of the Chicago Video Series

HIVE (the San Francisco-based hub of positive sexual and reproductive health) and the AIDS Foundation Chicago’s (AFC) Midwest HIV Pregnancy Prevention and Planning Initiative (MHPPPI) co-created a video series about HIV-affected individuals and couples and reproductive health intentions – real life vignettes of #HIVLoveWins stories.

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NURX Delivers Care

I first heard about Nurx after I told my mom an idea I had about a company which would deliver pharmaceuticals to people’s doors in San Francisco, sort of a bike messenger service that worked with pharmacies.

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Daddy’s Angel

When I found out she was pregnant, it was like a shot of dopamine surged through my blood and left me in a state of euphoria. I felt like I had finally caught a break in life, God had finally answered one of my prayers, to be a father…

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The Road to PrEP

When I first found out that the man I had fallen in love with is living with the virus, I felt like I had been punched. I wondered if we would be able to have a normal relationship and lead a normal life: be able to get married, have children, and grow old together.

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Tears & Triumph: HIV Affects Us All

When I heard the words “You are HIV Positive,” in June of 2012, time itself seemed to have stopped. It was as if I was seeing my whole life flash before my eyes and I was a simple bystander on the sidelines left with no control of the situation but to watch.

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Making Space: When the Clinician Forgets to Ask

My partner sits on the table in our gynecologist’s office undressed for her annual exam. The hospital gown is flapping open around her back when our gynecologist says that given my partner’s age, health history, and low risk factors, she can skip the pap smear…

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My Battle to Have a PrEP Baby

My husband found out he was positive about a month before I flew to Texas to go see him after all those years. We started to do our research at that time. In our research, we ended up finding PrEP…

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So…About Families Living With HIV (Like Mine)

It seems like “everybody and their mama” is doing or has done some type of “top ten” list about this thing or that thing… These are just mine. 🙂 So here goes…10 things you need to know about families affected by HIV.

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Surrogacy As a Viable Family Building Option

When considering whether or not you wish to become a parent, selecting the right family building mechanism is often a major challenge for parents-to-be. This is especially true when they may not fit the traditional cookie-cutter image of parents in the eyes of those from previous generations.

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My TasP Conception Story

My husband, Deon, and I are a serodifferent couple, which means that one of us is living with HIV and the other isn’t… After my husband disclosed his status to me, I did some research to find out what my risk would be if we had condomless sex.

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PrEP Helped Us Conceive Our First Child

My husband’s (then-boyfriend’s) HIV diagnosis came completely by surprise… It took several months of trying, but we finally were able to conceive a baby on our own – no special interventions needed.

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AIDS Walk 2015

It was a broiling hot day, unheard of in AIDS Walk history (usually it’s foggy or raining). We set out around 10:30am, with babies in strollers and dogs on leashes.

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Rachel & George’s PrEPception Story

“Oh, that’s it, I’m not going to have kids, and no normal person is going to want to be with me, because, who is going to want to be with somebody that has a contractible sexually transmitted disease.”

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A Breath of Fresh Air

I was in jail, and had decided to get tested. I knew that my girlfriend at that time was living with HIV and we hadn’t been taking precautions.

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Alejandra Cruz

Alejandra Cruz is an amazing fashion designer, hairdresser, & makeup artist who lives in San Francisco with her dog, Chichi. She is originally from Puerto Rico. She is a transgender woman living with HIV.

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